Summary of the Sermon by Senior Pastor Dr David Mohan, Founder, New Life Assembly of God Church, Chennai, India, at Bethany International Service, on Sunday, 26 March 2017.
BUILDING A FAMILY
By wisdom a house is built,
And by understanding it is established;
And by knowledge the rooms are filled
With all precious and pleasant riches.
A wise man is strong,
And a man of knowledge increases power. (Proverbs 24:3-5)
To build a good home we need the following: -
We need to develop knowledge about family life. These days, many divorces are taking place; children are in transition and there is trouble in society. When Dr Mohan was young, he and his siblings would get at up at 5am for prayer and sing songs of worship to God. All the children had to get up and be on time for prayer. His faith was formed from his knowledge of the Bible through his parents and Sunday School teachers.
We have to be equipped with the right knowledge. For couples, knowing each other begins after marriage, not before. God created a man and his wife for a purpose and God also created marriage, which is the oldest institution in the whole world. Today, we gather our knowledge of family from television and cinema. Our information should not come from cinema. We should get our knowledge from the Word of God, through Bible classes and books. We should study about Abraham and his family. Abraham loved his wife Sarah. Husband should love his wife as Christ loved the church. The wife should obey the husband. Sarah obeyed Abraham to leave Haran, despite not knowing the details of their destination.
Understanding each other in the family is very important and it takes time to understand one another. The wife speaks and thinks emotionally. The man thinks and speaks with reasoning.
Parents also need to understand their children. Each child has a different character and parents ought to understand their children. The more we spend with each other, the more we understand each other.
Understanding helps us to grasp the truth behind the knowledge and its meaning. The Bible says that understanding will watch over us (Proverbs 2:11).
In life, we need to have wisdom. We need to learn from James chapter 3.
But the wisdom from above is first pure, then peaceable, gentle, reasonable, full of mercy and good fruits, unwavering, without hypocrisy.
Grace is not a license to sin but grace helps us to stay away from sin. We need to build a beautiful family with God’s help. God created Adam and Eve in the Garden of Eden. Eden means a delightful place because the presence of God is there always. Let our homes be a place where God is present. If we want to know the purpose of the family, read Malachi 2:15.
But not one has done so who has a remnant of the Spirit. And what did that one do while he was seeking a godly offspring? (Malachi 2:15)
God’s purpose for the family is to bring forth godly children. We need to spend time with the children. Eli, the high priest, and his family were not good. Prophet Samuel did not raise his children well as he was travelling and ministering so much that his family was neglected.
Today’s generation is always on Facebook and they lack time and communication. We need to teach and discipline them accordingly. You need to pray for your children daily.
He who withholds his rod hates his son, But he who loves him disciplines him diligently. (Proverbs 13:24)
If we have faith, all things are possible. We must have faith in our children that God will deliver them.
Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. Honour your father and mother (which is the first commandment with a promise), so that it may be well with you, and that you may live long on the earth. (Ephesians 6:1-3)
What we sow, that we will reap. We need to teach our children to honour and respect us as their parents (Deuteronomy 5:16). This is the first commandment in the Bible which comes with a promise. May our homes be filled with God’s presence and peace!